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Heartbreak. We’ve all been there. You either can’t eat or you seek comfort in food. You either can’t sleep or melt into your down comforter, draw the blinds and sleep your sorrows away. One thing that’s certain, you cry; a lot. I’ve cried my eyes raw. They’ve gotten swollen and puffy and red, and what’s worse, over the years; I’ve even gotten cry-induced wrinkles. They’ve deepened with every disappointment. I decided to do a product roundup with the best beauty products to cover up crying. These are some go-to products I’ve used to pull myself together on the outside as I was in turmoil on the inside. Fake it till you make it right? Clinique Even Better Eyes Dark Circle Corrector and Clinique SuperdefencseAge Defense Eye Cream Broad Spectrum SPF20  Put this stuff in the fridge! Follow these steps in your post break up cry face beauty rescue routine. First your…

How committed are you to yourself? It’s a question I have asked myself a lot over the past year. Last week the question was prompted by yet another abnormal pap telling me I have cervical dysplasia, again. I, like 80% of the population was diagnosed with HPV, human papillomavirus. It’s been nothing but a cycle to nowhere for over a decade. Finally, I reached a breaking point and an opportunity to commit fully to myself and my health. I am restoring my female reproductive system to what it was when I was 15 years old. This got me thinking about personal commitment. In my business as a Love Coach, I constantly hear people complain about how no one is interested in commitment anymore. I agree!  Commitment has gotten a bad rap and most people ditch responsibility to self and others. It’s easier to say you’re happy than to believe you are happy.…

Everyone has their “Everest;” that one life challenge that they know they must complete before their soul leaves this earth. For me, after 44 years of life, I figured out that my “Everest” is the ability to give unconditional love. I’ll be honest. To love unconditionally has been difficult for me. I often asked myself is unconditional love possible? I mean love without conditions, really? As long as we have egos and a desire to receive, there’s going to be conditions. Resentments build when you give without the get. We are human and humans want to know what’s in it for them. That’s just the way it goes. Cynical? Yes! I describe unconditional love as my “Everest.” People die climbing Mt. Everest. It’s a huge feat. Loving unconditionally is like climbing Everest. However, these days I like to think that as I focus on the accomplishment (the dangerous climb) and…

Originally written October 2015. I study Kabbalah. It urges us to always connect to “The Light,” the divine force of all that is great and pure and blessed that resides within us. In life we are often brought into darkness. We forget that the light within is ours to illuminate at any time. It shows us the way to joy, love, prosperity and all we desire. In March 2015, I began yet another cycle from darkness to light in my own life. I collided with another soul who was in his cycle of darkness to light. Our time together was and forever will be an incredibly cherished part of my process. March 2015, I had learned that my ex-husband was dating another woman. We had been already separated or 4.5 years yet, I clung on to hope that we, maybe someday, would reconcile. I punished myself and was unkind to…

Originally Written Fall 2015. When a relationship ends the healthy thing to do is to take time to process your feelings, what went wrong, what went right and what you can learn and apply as you move forward. I got my world shaken by a very emotionally intense 5-month relationship that felt like 2 years. We bonded quickly. There are certainly relationship red flags never to ignore and the fast, intense start is one of them. We got a lot handled in a little bit of time. The aftermath of the break up was incredibly rough for me. Looking back, there were many red flags. I saw them. I ‘d say something but I’d allow my emotions to rule over logic. There were only three men in my life that affected me this way, so it was incredibly profound. I know I fell in love with this man, or at…

Originally Written Fall 2015. I recently came out of a 5-month relationship that had the intensity of a category 5 emotional tornado and it overlapped with the finalizing of my divorce. That sentence right there tells you exactly what my deal is. Hello, my name is Lisa and I might as well face it, I’m addicted to love. For those of you under age 35, the photo image in this article is from the 1985 Robert Palmer classic hit “Addicted to Love,” a song I first heard when I was 14. That song was a favorite of mine probably because deep in my subconscious it resonated with me. Here’s a sample of the lyrics. Your lights are on, but you’re not home Your mind is not your own Your heart sweats, your body shakes Another kiss is what it takes You can’t sleep, you can’t eat There’s no doubt, you’re…

Originally written November 2015. At the time of this article, I’m at day 56 of my 90-day Post Break up Detox Plan. I am rebuilding after a breakup using law of attraction. This self-imposed, self-created 90-day process calls for processing the relationship, healing myself, and an introspective, truthful, analysis without any distractions whatsoever. The strong soulful side of me says I was emotionally rocked by a relationship that I manifested to serve some grand purpose for my soul’s elevation. Yeah, whatever… it hurt like hell. I manifested a situation where I someone who I thought would never ever hurt me, did. It rattled me to my core and I’m mending a broken heart. So now as I proceed to live my life, my vibe has switched. These day’s I’m asked, “Lisa, why are you single and what are you looking for?” I was often asked this question while separated from my now ex-husband…

Originally written in December 2015. 5 Empowering Thoughts for 2016? Eesh! After the asskicking 2015 handed me, where do I even begin? In May of 2015 I filed for divorce from a man that I know 24 of my 44 years. Then in my weakened, broken emotional state I rushed into a relationship, which ended up putting me into therapy. 2015 rattled me to my core and will be added to the history of my life as a year that roughed me up and made a deep mark. I will never forget 2015. I spent the last three months of 2015 pulling myself out of a deep dark emotional ditch; the same deep ditch I thought a relationship saved me from back in May. Interesting how the universe works. Here I am 3 days before 2016 rolls in, still reeling from my 2015, and I’m asked to contribute an article on empowering…

Originally written January 2016. After the double whammy of divorce and a breakup I was emotionally raw and depressed. I sunk deep. I had the wherewithal to know something different was going on with me and I needed help. I sought out a therapist and decided to commit to healing. I was told after a break up to allow 90 days to heal. This timeframe was equal to a season. 90 days is always the magic number. When you enter a new relationship it’s advised to allow 90 days to see the truth in a person so it makes sense that a 90 day Post Break Up Detox would make sense too. I just reached the 90-day mark and the last 3 months have set me off onto a whole new path. Here’s what went on.  1. I was depressed.  I look at where I was from October 15th (which…

Originally written in fall, 2016. Therapy is a fascinating thing. Each week the psychologist plants these brain bombs that go off long after the session ends; 90% of therapy is done outside of the session. It’s the work you do on yourself in between sessions where the unraveling and discoveries happen. I always knew I was codependent but I never did anything about it. I heard the word come up several times and I’d feel a physical nudge inside. The Universe sets it up where Law of Attraction gives us exactly what we need to grow. When you don’t pay attention, the lessons come harder until it’s impossible to ignore. Almost 3 months ago I started to research codependency and what I was reading resonated but this time there was no escaping. I must commit 100% to fully to healing myself and that means entering my crash course on codependency.…