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Might as Well Face It I’m Addicted to Love

Originally Written Fall 2015. I recently came out of a 5-month relationship that had the intensity of a category 5 emotional tornado and it overlapped with the finalizing of my divorce. That sentence right there tells you exactly what my deal is. Hello, my name is Lisa and I might as well face it, I’m addicted to love. For those of you under age 35, the photo image in this article is from the 1985 Robert Palmer classic hit “Addicted to Love,” a song I first heard when I was 14. That song was a favorite of mine probably because deep in my subconscious it resonated with me. Here’s a sample of the lyrics. Your lights are on, but you’re not home Your mind is not your own Your heart sweats, your body shakes Another kiss is what it takes You can’t sleep, you can’t eat There’s no doubt, you’re…

Rebuilding After a Breakup Using Law of Attraction

Originally written November 2015. At the time of this article, I’m at day 56 of my 90-day Post Break up Detox Plan. I am rebuilding after a breakup using law of attraction. This self-imposed, self-created 90-day process calls for processing the relationship, healing myself, and an introspective, truthful, analysis without any distractions whatsoever. The strong soulful side of me says I was emotionally rocked by a relationship that I manifested to serve some grand purpose for my soul’s elevation. Yeah, whatever… it hurt like hell. I manifested a situation where I someone who I thought would never ever hurt me, did. It rattled me to my core and I’m mending a broken heart. So now as I proceed to live my life, my vibe has switched. These day’s I’m asked, “Lisa, why are you single and what are you looking for?” I was often asked this question while separated from my now ex-husband…

5 Empowering Thoughts for a New Year

Originally written in December 2015. 5 Empowering Thoughts for 2016? Eesh! After the asskicking 2015 handed me, where do I even begin? In May of 2015 I filed for divorce from a man that I know 24 of my 44 years. Then in my weakened, broken emotional state I rushed into a relationship, which ended up putting me into therapy. 2015 rattled me to my core and will be added to the history of my life as a year that roughed me up and made a deep mark. I will never forget 2015. I spent the last three months of 2015 pulling myself out of a deep dark emotional ditch; the same deep ditch I thought a relationship saved me from back in May. Interesting how the universe works. Here I am 3 days before 2016 rolls in, still reeling from my 2015, and I’m asked to contribute an article on empowering…

After a Break Up Allow 90 Days to Heal

Originally written January 2016. After the double whammy of divorce and a breakup I was emotionally raw and depressed. I sunk deep. I had the wherewithal to know something different was going on with me and I needed help. I sought out a therapist and decided to commit to healing. I was told after a break up to allow 90 days to heal. This timeframe was equal to a season. 90 days is always the magic number. When you enter a new relationship it’s advised to allow 90 days to see the truth in a person so it makes sense that a 90 day Post Break Up Detox would make sense too. I just reached the 90-day mark and the last 3 months have set me off onto a whole new path. Here’s what went on.  1. I was depressed.  I look at where I was from October 15th (which…

My Crash Course in Codependency

Originally written in fall, 2016. Therapy is a fascinating thing. Each week the psychologist plants these brain bombs that go off long after the session ends; 90% of therapy is done outside of the session. It’s the work you do on yourself in between sessions where the unraveling and discoveries happen. I always knew I was codependent but I never did anything about it. I heard the word come up several times and I’d feel a physical nudge inside. The Universe sets it up where Law of Attraction gives us exactly what we need to grow. When you don’t pay attention, the lessons come harder until it’s impossible to ignore. Almost 3 months ago I started to research codependency and what I was reading resonated but this time there was no escaping. I must commit 100% to fully to healing myself and that means entering my crash course on codependency.…

Ghosting is a Dating Trend that Must End

Ghosting is a dating trend that must end. I thought ghosting was a horrible dating habit reserved for casual Tinder flings. Apparently this awful, cowardice, emotionally vapid act also occurs in (allegedly) full-on, all-in, committed relationships. I had to allow time before I tackled this topic. In 2015, I was ghosted upon. It was cruel and in my case, totally undeserved. Now that time has passed and I moved from depression to hope, back to depression, back to hope and then anger, disbelief, anger again, more depression, then closure, then acceptance; I’m able to offer some practical advice for victims of ghosting. But first, a definition of ghosting for those new to the dating scene. When I first wrote this blog it took about 12 seconds to get all fired up, angry at my ex boyfriend. However, my desire to help others outweighs my ego’s need to slam him so I slept on…

20 Traits of a High Value Man

Ok gentlemen it’s time for some straight talk. Please know that all of this comes from a place of love and the intention to inspire. I’m a woman who talks to men and women all the time about love and loss. What you both have in common is that you’re all kind, loving souls worthy of giving and receiving love. Guys, sometimes you wonder what you’re doing wrong when it comes to women. So when I list 20 traits of a high value man, I’m simply reporting what women want. This is to help you. So please read this, be honest with yourself and where you are in your life and where you want to go. Then do whatever you can to make positive changes for yourself first. Love yourself truly and true love comes. Ok, here it goes…. 20 Traits of a High Value Man He commits to himself and…

Cibo Wine Bar is Great for Dates and Family

Given I am a Dating Coach based in South Beach in Miami, I get people from everywhere asking me where to go on a date. Cibo Wine Bar is a great date spot on Miami Beach and there are many reasons why. Most recently I went to Cibo on a date and the coolest part was the guy’s dad was visiting and he came too. That’s right. It was the guy, the guy’s dad and I and the food and conversation were great. Cibo is a great date spot but it’s also an awesome spot to take family when they visit south beach. Here’s why…  1. The menu is huge! There’s something for everyone from pastas to pizzas to fish dishes and plates of salume and cheeses. When you go on a date and worry that the girl might be picky or on a diet, Cibo takes that concern away. There is…

MIAMI CULINARY TOURS IS A GREAT DATE IDEA

Planning fun things to do is a key part of a relationship. True, you need to have your own interests. You can’t be joined at the hip sharing a brain. Still, there are times where you want to do fun things together. I love good food. I appreciate sharing deliciousness with the man I’m dating. A relationship that involves great food and drink plus an excuse to see and learn interesting things is my kind of relationship. I encourage people to either find a food tour in their own city or make one up. Make a list of 4 places you want to try and sample something from their menu. Have a different course ata different place. This is exactly why Miami Culinary Tours is a great date idea. It basically takes you for a tour of a part of the city with stops in at restaurants for bites along the way.…